This site is mostly advice: Here is a way I think you could and should act in X situation, because I’ve seen it work well. Do I take my own advice? Sure. Sometimes, mostly. When it’s easy advice. When I feel like it. When I’m not doubting myself. That’s the secret, isn’t it? If I …
Talking about what intrinsically motivates us is sometimes difficult; hell, sometimes even understanding what motivates us is difficult. The Moving Motivators exercise (available for sale or as a free download there, as an online tool here, or as a Miro template) provides a framework to think about and talk through ten motivators that most people …
I value what I can’t do more than what I can do. Of course I’m proud that I herded the llamas into their pen without letting any escape into the hills, but (my brain says to me) it was pretty easy, so clearly it wasn’t that hard, and anyone could have done it if they’d …
There’s a study out there that says context switching costs fifteen minutes to get back into the task. The classic example: You are doing some deep thought work and have been nose-deep in code or spreadsheet formulas or editing for an hour. Your phone rings. Interrupted, when you settle back down to your deep work, …
What if Future You were Current You’s best friend? You would treat your future self like a separate person that you care about deeply and would go out of your way to make life easier for. This is the absolute best way to prevent myself from procrastinating. Instead of saying “I’ll do it in the …
It took two years of pandemic-induced reduced face-to-face contact before I experienced something extroverts apparently find completely ordinary: the feeling of being recharged after a social interaction. For the first time in my life, I understood how it might feel to be powered primarily by interaction with others. I found the experience of comprehending another …